Father’s Day for the Single Mom
I know you’re asking what she’s celebrating Father’s Day too now? No not quite while I do feel in my household I have now taken on the official title of bug killer which I detest might I add, I am not taking this special day away from the dads who earned the coveted day to sit back and do nothing. Wait a minute what do we get on Mother’s Day, the kids are still screaming our name asking for a million things do we truly ever sit and do nothing? Hmmmm…ok mute point this isn’t about that at all.
So being a single mom twice now with kids in tow from both fathers I’ve learned that while things may have not been all sunshine and lollipops with me and their dad, the kids still need to honor their dad. I have always tried to make an effort for my oldest daughter to take part and do something special for her dad. Create a card, go with me to get him a gift, really something to take him that’s just from her to show him she cares. It always gave her a sense of joy making the gift and of course giving it to him.
My friends and especially my now soon to be ex-husband thought I was a bit crazy because of course Father’s day isn’t the only time I would do this. Truth be told maybe I am a bit crazy but mostly I was selfish. Selfish because I got to see how happy it made her to do something nice for somebody she loved. Let’s be perfectly clear while he did reap the rewards I never did it for him, I always 100% did it for her. I never wanted her to feel bad for not doing something special for him just because him and I didn’t get along and he chose a different path than our marriage. I never wanted her to be asked by somebody what she got him or did for him and have to say nothing. I never wanted her to feel like honoring a part of her and what makes her, well her, was wrong. And she truly got joy from it so, I did it and that brought me joy.
So now that I am faced with this same holiday tradition to carry on with the two little ones I will do it with joy for them to share a gift with their dad this Father’s Day. We have decided to draw, paint, glitter 2 – 4×6 pictures and then frame them with two pictures of the each of them. The frame was at Target (I know taboo I shopped at Target, but I didn’t have to pee, clearly I didn’t jump on the 2 week bandwagon) for only $5.99 and it will hold the 4 pictures. I still have to get a magnet to mount on the back of the frame so he can put it on his fridge. Alyse picked out a card and I picked out the card from Dean of course I’ll let them color on them.
I know being a single mom is challenging at best and sometimes you really really don’t want to do anything nice for the other person trust me! But please take note who you’re actually doing it for and the example you’re setting to the little people you do care about and want the best for, so what’s $10 and a whole 30 minutes of them occupied in activity…Sounds Like Heaven To Me!!
Ok well it was a little chaotic Dean was smitten with the buttons and table dancing, while Alyse is by far my glitter Queen! I can’t show you the final product because then it wouldn’t be a surprise for him now would it?
Happy Father’s Day to ALL the Dad’s especially my two AWESOME Dad’s
I LOVE Them Both So VERY Much I just don’t think they’ll ever realize how big of an impact each of them have had on my own personal life and I am so thankful they have been there for me and my kiddos through everything, I am so Lucky to have them!